Truth Hurts, Marriages Suffer During Recovery.

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The truth is my relationships are suffering during my recovery.

Almost two and half years ago I made drastic changes to my personal life. I do not do life alone. I have a husband and two daughters, which means my lifestyle has impacted our relationships. I have to learn how to be intentional, not only in my recovery or pursuing my new interest, but as a wife and mother.

Some days I do better then other days. The first year I was very distant and pushed everyone away. It took time, but I did start to find a middle ground. Now I need to be very mindful of these relationships and how during my journey I need to continue to nurture each of them.

The truth is being intentional has caused contention within my marriage.

As I discover new interest and am pursuing new passions it has been difficult for my husband. Prior to recovery we spent endless hours listening to news and discussing topics which now I find disturbing. It’s not that I don’t want to be informed, but the drama and vitriol caused from the news and government I find unhealthy. This can be triggering for those who do not have healthy coping skills, which leads to unhealthy conversations.

I prefer to start my day in peace, where my husband is eager to hear the latest news. I need to be intentional at the start of my day, not just for my own personal purpose, but within our marriage. I need to make time for him and allow him to vent. Too often do I find myself engaged in my purpose and ignoring my husband. And when he is reading articles on his phone he ignores me.

For a successful marriage we both need to be intentional. We need to find that common ground and make time for shared interests. I need to offer grace when he allows the news to impact him.

Truth Hurts

The is a weekly blog publication which scratches the surface of my struggles with life and sobriety. It is meant for introspection and to question your own daily struggles. Truth Hurts takes a deeper look, sharing my daily struggles in a less formal, more intimate approach,. I will supplement the grow-together post with Truth Hurts digging deeper to spur on healthy growth.

3 responses to “Truth Hurts, Marriages Suffer During Recovery.”

  1. Grace is key for sure! Thank you for sharing your heart. And prayers that others are truthful with themselves and others as they walk out their own journeys with God.

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